It’s the month of love, and an important aspect of love that many people take for granted is the power of touch. Humans thrive on love and one of the ways we can express our love for another is through touch.
Telling someone you love them can be less effective than hugging them in a warm embrace – holding your loved one in your arms so that they FEEL the love. Because we live in a busy society with lots of rushing around, not to mention smart phones and tablets taking up our time, resulting in information overload, we are lacking in non-verbal communication.
If you find that your relationship is getting stale or if you want to enhance a good relationship, massage can certainly help.
If music links the right and left-brains together, massage nourishes the body, mind and soul, knitting our practical thoughts with our spiritual being.
A few tips on a loving massage:
Use a room with soft lighting – lay a towel on a bed or couch or the floor
Begin with small amounts of oil and gently rub your hands together to warm the oil and your hands.
Use gentle but fairly firm strokes. Make the strokes long and firm using flat hands following the contours of the body. Caress with the intent of transferring energy.
Add more oil only as necessary. Remember that more oil is not necessarily better, but a dry massage is unpleasant.
Use long strokes on limbs and back, introducing a wide circle movement on the back and also on the stomach.
If you are massaging with one hand then lay your other hand on the recipient’s arm, back or leg with firm but gentle pressure.
Back massage is the most soothing, whilst legs and feet are sensual for some and off putting for others.
Ask your partner about the sort of pressure they enjoy or where they need more or less massage.
Play gentle music or maintain silence allowing your hands to do the talking – use the time to communicate by touch and eye contact instead of words spoken.
For some, a face-to-face seated or standing co-massage may be delightful and very sensual – each one massages the other mirroring the massage.
Always use a plain carrier oil around genitalia.
If you are on your own you can still treat yourself with love by creating the mood – self-massage your limbs, lower back and stomach with strong but gentle slow strokes using a premixed oil.
If giving or receiving a massage does not appeal to you, then run a bath adding beautiful oils to soak in, lighting candles to create a mood.
Doryce Sher, co-founder of Aromatic Apothecary, is one of South Africa’s leading advocates on the regulation of complementary medicine, with a particular interest in Aromatherapy.
Serving on and representing various health boards in South Africa, it is her passionate aim to ensure people are aware that there are choices when it comes to health and well-being.
If you have a question or a story you would like to share, please contact Doryce